12.31.2010

The Special Mother

I know this probably seems like a rather odd post for me. My mind was drawing a blank today of what to post, but yet I felt this strong need to do just that. I silently said to God that I knew i was to post today,but what? Immediately this came to mind. Perhaps there is a woman out there that needs to see this,I don't know.Maybe you know someone who will be comforted by it. God Bless!



The Special Mother
by Erma Bombeck

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit.
This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
"Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint...give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."
"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron saint, Cecelia."
"Rutledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint, Matthew."
Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."
The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She's so happy."
"Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."
"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has her own world. She has to make her live in her world and that's not going to be easy."
"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect - she has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps - "selfishness? is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word'". She will never consider a "step" ordinary. When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and will know it!"
"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty, prejudice....and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side".
"And what about her Patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.
God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."

3 comments:

nickys nook said...

this was a beautiful post- thank you for stopping by i have been wallowing in self pity my son went away to school and i havent been dealing with this empty nest thing well- i had planned on so many projects but i just couldnt get it together this year i promise to become better adjusted (at least i'm gonna try) i miss my son so much maybe i should have had more than 1 child - Happy New Year

Brenda said...

Came over to visit and thank you for stopping by my blog. This was quite a lovely post I do not know if you noticed that I have my favorite quote at the top of my blog and is a Erma Bombeck quote. This somewhat hits home because my middle daughter has 4 boys. She became a Christian at a young age but has struggled with depression since a teenager. Now here she is with 4 boys and they are a hand full. The forth one has Neurofibromatosis, he just turned 2 in August. I am very surprised how well she manages to keep things together, I am impressed with her quite often. And I often wonder how God chose her to raise these 4 boys.

Tam said...

thank you